Making end-of-life plans is important not only so that you get the services you want but also so your family is able to manage your estate and the transition more easily. That being said, initiating this conversation isn’t the simplest. People don’t want to think about death or be perceived as awkward or cold-hearted by bringing it up, but it’s an important conversation to have as it plans for the future. Whether it’s the content of the conversation or the conversation itself that is giving you pause, here are five tips for discussing your end-of-life plans with your family.
1. Schedule a Time to Sit Down Together and Discuss Your Plans
There may not be a perfect time to sit down with your family and talk about end-of-life plans. This is why it’s always best to schedule a time to get everyone close to you in one room so that you can hold this conversation. Letting them know ahead of time gives everyone plenty of time to process any emotions they may feel before they begin the actual conversation, which can be better than holding a spur-of-the-moment conversation.
2. Create a List of All of Your Wants Ahead of Time
Aptly named, end-of-life plans require some planning already in place. Make sure that you have a list on hand that details some of your wants and needs toward end-of-life, and work with your family to fill out any areas you’re unsure of and want their feedback on. This list may consist of things like what you want your monument or headstone to say and look like, which nursing home you’d like to be placed in, and similar details.
3. Actively Listen to Your Family
Our families act as our support system. They may see issues in our current end-of-life plans or have better suggestions that could make us a bit more comfortable. Make sure that this conversation is two-way rather than you telling your relatives how everything’s going to go. By doing this, you make it a collaborative effort that will be bolstered by your family’s questions and ideas. They may sometimes know what’s better for you than you do.
4. Prepare Together for Unforeseen Circumstances
Planning for end-of-life often means focusing on what we think is going to happen. But what are you going to do should you not be able to age in place in your home? What would you do should you end up dealing with a neurological disorder that makes it difficult for you to take care of yourself or make decisions? Planning extensively for all scenarios is crucial when you talk about end-of-life planning with your family.
5. Go Over Everything One More Time to Solidify Plans
Once you all have a strong idea of what you’re going to be doing and have all reached an agreement, go over everything one more time. This will ensure everyone’s on the same page so that you can all move forward with confidence.
Planning for end-of-life is a process that requires everyone who will be involved. Make sure that the conversation is productive and goes smoothly with the insights above.