3 Ways to Support Your Wife’s Mental Health

3 Ways to Support Your Wife’s Mental Health

It’s been a tough few years with the pandemic and a lot of the brunt of the pandemic has fallen into the laps of mothers. When schools were closed down, mothers were often the ones who picked up the childcare tab. On top of having to be a home teacher, they also had to juggle their normal responsibilities such as working, taking care of the home and so forth. As if that wasn’t enough, on top of that the lockdowns meant that they had to do it mostly in isolation. If your wife is still struggling to find her spark, then it might be time for you to step in to lighten her load and to show her that she’s supported by you. If you’re looking for ways to help support your wife’s mental health, keep reading to learn more.

1. Surprise Her
Doing something special for her is a great way to make her feel loved and appreciated. There’s a good chance your wife is happy to do all the things she does for you, your kids and the home, but if you’re not appreciating her then she can feel taken for granted or even used. For that reason it’s worth spicing things up by surprising her. There are so many ways you can surprise your wife, from letting her sleep in on the weekend, waking her up with a fresh cup of coffee, or even spoiling her with a beautiful silver locket just because you were thinking of her. However you choose to surprise her, be sure to think about what she would love the most.

2. Lighten Her Load
Ask her directly what she’d like help with around the home or during your weekly responsibilities. If she’s slow to answer or doesn’t have much to suggest, you could make a weekly calendar together so you can see the ‘weight’ of the family load better and divide it more evenly. Sometimes asking your wife what she wants you to do feels like another task for her to organize, so with that in mind it could be worthwhile coming up with your own ideas and suggestions of what you’d like to do and asking her if that helps her in any way. One of the hardest things about being a wife/mother is the mental load that comes alongside it, so it may even just be sharing some of that load.

3. Encourage Her to Be Selfish
Women aren’t the best at being selfish and that is part of their natural behavior that allows them to be such fantastic mothers. But at some point it can become almost toxic when a woman loses herself and focuses so much on others that she is neglected. You might have to help your wife be selfish and make time for herself. That could look like going to her favorite yoga class a few times a week, spending her money on herself and not the kids, or even going to stay alone in a hotel for a night to get a much deserved night’s sleep. Encouraging your wife to focus on herself is one of the best ways you can help her mental health.

I’m sure if you’re reading this post you really love your wife and want her to be as happy as she makes you. I hope these tips give you actionable steps to help make your wife feel more supported and to help her overall mental wellbeing.