Lasting Longer in Bed: The Problem Men Don’t Like to Discuss

The issue of men’s sexual health has been dominated in recent times by one issue, that being the problem of erectile dysfunction. An extremely debilitating condition, erectile dysfunction has been the bane of a huge number of men across the world, leaving them feeling at the very least inadequate, and at worst, severely depressed. Thankfully, advances in medication for erectile dysfunction (ED) have come on in leaps and bounds in recent years, with the likes of Viagra and Cialis, but another area of men’s sexual health that seems to have fallen by the wayside is at the opposite end of the spectrum in regards to sexual prowess. That issue is premature ejaculation, or PE.

Premature ejaculation is technically regarded as climaxing before you or your partner find acceptable. Whether this is 30 seconds or 5 minutes doesn’t matter, but what does matter is whether you are satisfied with the length of time it takes to ejaculate. Why this sexual health issue has been ignored for so long seems strange when ED was previously looked at as an equally embarrassing condition, and has received plenty of coverage and in turn, solutions to aid sufferers. When 1 in 3 men are thought to suffer from premature ejaculation at some point in their lives, there is not exactly a shortage of men looking for help in this department.

Effective delay sprays

Luckily, things have changed a lot over the last few years. Men looking to put an end their PE nightmare, or those who are simply wondering how to last longer in bed have suddenly found that solutions are starting to infiltrate the market, some of which actually work extremely well. Yes, there are various ‘snake oil’ remedies being sold online, but some, such as Promescent, are not only backed up by stellar user reviews, but scientific research as well.

Promescent is a climax delay spray that has been developed by urologists that helps men last longer in bed by slightly dulling the sensations to the penis, which in turn stops you racing towards that ‘point of no return’. Just a few sprays onto the head of the penis, and within minutes the TargetZone™ technology gets to work, muting the feelings around the localized area, but not spreading the numbness to the rest of the penis. This means that although you feel in control of when you want to ejaculate, you can still feel all the pleasure that normally accompanies a sexual encounter.

There are multiple reasons why you might want to use a delay spray such as Promescent rather than the many others on the market. Firstly, the fact that it absorbs quickly means that a) there is less need for any planning, and b) there is less chance of the solution transferring to a partner. 5 to 10 minutes after the application, and you are ready to go! The second, and perhaps most important reason to use it, is that unlike other remedies, many urologists back up this product as being not only effective but safe too. When dealing with any medication, it pays to listen to the experts!

Train your mind to be distracted

For those that wish to improve their sexual prowess without the use of any medication (or perhaps alongside the use of a delay spray), various behavioural techniques have been discovered that can aid you in the pursuit of climax control. The first (and probably most well-known) is the ‘stop-start’ technique.  As you have probably guessed, this involves stopping any movement during intercourse once you feel yourself starting to get to the point of no return. Once you have gained control of yourself and feel relaxed enough, continue. This should be repeated as many times as necessary. The continual use of this technique can train the mind to notice when things are getting a little out of control and allow you to reign in the sensations to a point where you feel you oversee your body.

The second technique is called the ‘squeeze’ approach. For this technique, simply pinch (or get your partner to pinch) the tip of the penis when you approach climax. The slightly uncomfortable feeling should move your mind away from the pleasurable aspect of intercourse and give it a different sensation to concentrate on. You aren’t looking to inflict agony here, but rather just enough of a different stimulus that your brain is distracted. This, in the same way that the ‘stop-start’ technique works, can lead you to understand when your climax is building up too quickly, and control the urge when needed.

Whether you choose to deploy a behavioural technique or use a delay spray (or perhaps a combination of both) doesn’t really matter. If you suffer from PE and find it has become debilitating, gaining your confidence back and enjoying a healthy sex life is the only goal that matters. Men, being notoriously bad at seeing a doctor when they probably should do, now have options that don’t require them to speak to anybody. If PE has left you feeling embarrassed, or if you simply wish to increase your sexual prowess, help is now at hand. Don’t suffer in silence, be proactive, and sort the problem out once and for all. PE is common and treatable; all you have to do is see which remedy works best for you.

About the author

David van der Ende is a full-time blogger and part-time graphic design enthusiast. He loves to write about a broad range of topics, but his professional background in both legal and finance drives him to write on these two subjects most frequently.