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Are These 5 Things Secretly Killing Your Sex Drive?

Is your sex drive slower than your partner’s drive? If so, this is an obstacle that can keep you up at night wondering what is wrong with you. There’s no “magic” number that you have to hit to satisfy your partner – every couple is different.  Averages can be once a week for some couples and once a month for others.

A study of
20,000 couples found that the majority of couples have sex once or twice a
month. Only 26% of couples have sex once a week.

Your sex drive may be slow, or your sex drive may be normal based on these figures.

But if
you’re not as excited for intercourse as you have been in the past, you may be
suffering from:

1. Anxiety Strikes Again

If you’ve
had a bad experience in the bedroom before, you may be becoming anxious.
A lot of people have anxiety, and worrying about your performance in the
bedroom can quickly ruin the mood.

Anxiety can
be caused by a bout of erectile dysfunction, even if the issue only occurred

You need to
put expectations aside. Try to relax and stop thinking so much.

2. Exercising Too Much

Exercise is
great for the libido, but when you go to the extreme, exercise has been shown
to impact a person’s endocrine system. What does this mean? Studies suggest that the person who
exercises too much will have lower testosterone levels.

The lower a
person’s testosterone, the lower their sex drive will be.

Women can
also suffer from lower estrogen levels due to over-exercise. Weakness and
exhaustion can also follow.

3. Food or Drinks

foods and drinks have been shown to diminish a person’s libido. Alcohol causes
testosterone levels to fall and coffee can increase anxiety, which brings us
back to the first point on our list.

Foods that
you should be concerned with eating when you’re having trouble in the bedroom

  • All-purpose flour
  • Cheese
  • Dairy
  • Deli meat
  • Edamame
  • Flaxseed
  • Fried foods
  • Mint
  • Shrimp

And that’s
just the start. Your favorite foods may have a hormonal impact on your body,
leading to trouble in the bedroom.

4. Unknown Thyroid Issues

issues impact your metabolism due to the gland’s key role in producing
metabolic-regulating hormones. If you have a thyroid issue, it may impact:

  • Energy
  • Mood
  • Sex drive

is a major concern because it will lead to a slowing of the metabolism and
reproductive organs, too. Adrenal glands are responsible for producing sex
hormones, and if they’re slowed, this will lead to lower levels of testosterone
or estrogen.

5. Phones Don’t Help

People in
their twenties are having less sex. Phones may be to blame. One study
found that millennials are twice as likely to not have sex in their
early 20s compared to previous generations.


Experts believe that people spend time
scrolling on their phones before bed rather than being intimate with their
partners. In-person interaction is starting to decline, and it’s a major
problem for a lot of couples.

Trying to put the phone down an hour or two before bed is a quick and easy way to allow time to be intimate.

You may also want to try sex toys.