Take off the Blinders – How to Be a Good Parent

So you want to be a great dad or mom, right? The truth is – parenting isn’t the simplest of tasks. Plus, many parent parents fail to see that their actions aren’t always the best for their kids. But, you don’t have to be part of the statistics. You can set a good example for your little bundles of joy. Here’s a rundown of things you should stop doing to your children right now.

Allowing Them Too Much TV Time

Make no mistake about it – there’s no problem with letting your tot watch their favorite cartoon program. However, too much TV is bad for your eyes as it is for your kids. Besides, repeated studies show that children who spend most of their time in front of screens have a problem completing their homework. The ripple effect is that they perform poorly in school, attaining bad grades in the long run.

Showing Them That you’re Failing

Listen, your kids look up to you for inspiration. The last thing that you want to show them is that you’re struggling with issues. Sure, you’re not a perfect parent. Still, you need to do your best. Indeed, some days will be better than others. It’s your job to face each challenge as it comes without letting your children feel like you’re not doing enough.

Doing Everything for Them

You should love your kids, but that doesn’t mean that you should do everything for them. You want your children to have hands-on experience on how to do things. So, be sure to raise independent teens. Allow them to decide on critical issues. Of course, you have to guide them in case they stray.

Neglecting your Marriage

Marriage isn’t easy. And, yes it is not fit for everyone. However, it is essential to foster a healthy relationship with your spouse for the sake of your kids. You can plan night date together. That way, you can have time to bond and reflect on where your union is heading. The idea is to show the little one that creating long lasting friendships is possible.

Frequent Fights

You don’t have to quarrel over little things. Okay, you will not always read from the same script but you can try to keep things under control, especially when in front of your children. In other words, pick your parenting fights wisely. Avoid issues that don’t matter.

Not Assigning Responsibilities

Ah, the life of a kid – a carefree life, with no responsibilities. Really? Well, that’s because you’ve decided everything falls on you. It is, therefore, important that you assign chores depending on the age. In fact, you should start teaching your toddler that people should work as early as you can.

Overburdening Them

Sure, your children have to work. Even then, you shouldn’t overschedule them. Remember, your little monster has to experience everything he/she wants. In essence, this implies that the young one has a tight schedule from scouting to dance, sports and other activities in a single semester. So, when they come home for the holiday, you should give them a few hours for free time. Let them be, as they say.

Spoiling Them

Like any other parent, you love your children and you want them to be 100% happy most of the time. And, since that’s not possible, you may find yourself spoiling them rotten. Whether by accident or intention, you should try to limit what you’re doing to keep your kids happy. Look for ways to give your teens the best without spoiling them.

Overspending

You need to show your children the value of money at a tender age. Teach them the need for responsible spending. Let them know you have to work to earn. And, when you have the cash, you should budget and account for every coin. Think of it as a way of nurturing the young ones to financial independence.

Final Thoughts

Parenting is all about doing the right thing at the right time. It is about showing your kids how to deal with life situations. Instill discipline in your children and raise them to become responsible adults. Don’t forget to teach them to be grateful for what they have. Oh and, you don’t have to spend time with them 24/7.